
This is pretty much my day everyday. Brian comes home to a messy house, children in time-out and tears in my exhausted eyes. I have felt hopeless and at fault for my ill-behaved children and better yet my embarrassing behavior (talking, persuading, arguing, yelling and a strong desire to spank) trying to fix things.
I went to a party last Friday night and had a long, very long and wonderful conversation with a friend who has a similar situation as me. She completely understood me. Well, I didn't have to say anything, she was relating her experiences with her children that were identical to mine.
Her approach has been a book called "1-2-3 Magic." You may have read it. I haven't and was blown away by her testimony to this book. So, I purchased it Saturday morning. I can't wait to finish reading it and try it. While I have been reading it, I have noticed that I do a lot wrong according to this book and I have been doing a lot right just not long enough. I give up way too soon. What I love about this is that it explains what the child is doing to try to gain the control of the situation back. This is where I give in too soon. The book confirmed to me that I was doing things right just not long enough. Now I know what signs to look for and that there will be an end without loosing my mind. Patience, I can do this!